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The twin flame journey is a spiritual and emotional experience unlike any other. It is a bond that goes beyond the physical realm, connecting two souls in an unbreakable bond of love and understanding.
However, this journey is not without its challenges and tests. The meeting of twin flames often triggers a series of stages that both individuals must go through in order to reach a union with each other.
Based on my experience and research, there are 9 distinct stages in the Twin Flame journey. In this article, we will explore these different stages in detail.
But before we begin, it is important to remember that every twin flame connection is unique, and not all stages may apply to your experience. However, by understanding these stages, you can gain a deeper understanding of your own journey.
Stage 1: The Yearning
Before meeting our twin flame, many of us experience a strong desire for a partner, particularly the divine feminine. From a young age, the divine feminine is captivated by romantic movies, such as those from Disney. As we grow older and embark on the quest for our soulmate, this desire grows even stronger. The divine masculine, on the other hand, may feel a sense of longing for something or someone that they cannot quite identify.
This longing makes us feel as though there is someone out there we are destined to meet in this lifetime. This yearning serves as a calling to find and reconnect with our twin flame. However, it is often misunderstood as a search for a romantic partner. Society often leads us to believe that we must find someone to complete us in order to be happy. But this is not the true purpose of a twin flame reunion. A twin flame connection has a deeper and more profound purpose than romantic love.
For many of us, the longing we feel often fades away when we encounter our twin flame. It is because we have finally found what we have been searching for.
My Personal Experience:
As the divine feminine in my twin flame connection, I used to fantasize about being in a romantic relationship. However, upon meeting my twin flame, the desire to be in a relationship vanished. Despite being just friends with my twin flame, I am no longer seeking a partner.
Stage 2: The Preparation
Before we meet our twin flame, many of us experience multiple challenging relationships that often have karmic implications. These relationships serve as preparation for meeting our twin flame, as they help us address and heal emotional wounds from past and present lifetimes.
Navigating through these challenging relationships allows us to resolve emotional wounds, fostering a healthier mindset when we eventually encounter our twin flame. It also enhances the likelihood of a union with our twin flame.
In some cases, individuals may undergo a spiritual awakening or face the Dark Night of the Soul, which prepares them to handle the spiritual experiences that accompany the twin flame journey. The entrance of our twin flame triggers accelerated personal growth. However, if we cling to past wounds, this growth may encounter significant resistance, leading to further pain and suffering.
My Personal Experience:
I had three one-sided karmic relationships before meeting my twin flame. I also underwent a spiritual awakening and a Dark Night of the Soul. When my twin flame went through his own Dark Night of the Soul, I was able to offer him valuable insights and support.
If are struggling with spiritual awakening, read this artilce to learn how to navigate the emotional pain.
Stage 3: The Meeting
The meeting of twin flames is not by chance. It is a predestined encounter where two souls recognize each other from their past lives. This meeting can happen in different ways – online, at work, through friends, or even in a random encounter. However, the timing of this meeting is always divinely orchestrated.
When twin flames meet, there is often an immediate recognition and resonance that surpasses physical attraction. It feels like coming home after being away for a long time. The energy between twin flames is intense and can be overwhelming at first.
If you want to know if someone is your twin flame, read my article on twin flame signs.
My Personal Experience:
During my meditation practice, I had a serendipitous encounter with my twin flame on a meditation app. Intrigued, I followed the link in his profile to join his meetup group. In our first meeting, I instantly felt an inexplicable connection with my twin flame. The sense of safety and comfort within the group allowed me to open up in ways I never thought possible. A simple hug with him felt like coming home. This profound connection is unlike anything I have experienced before.
Stage 4: The Bonding
After the initial meeting, twin flames may experience a period of intimate bonding. During this stage, the twin flames get to know each other better and deepen their connection, whether it is through friendship or a romantic bond.
This stage is characterized by a deep sense of love and familiarity with each other. The conversation flows effortlessly, and there is an understanding that goes beyond words.
Twin flames also have a strong telepathic connection during this stage. They can often finish each other’s sentences or even feel what the other is thinking or feeling. This bond creates a sense of oneness and unity, where the two souls feel like they are one.
My Personal Experience:
During a period of approximately 7 months, we experienced a strong bonding stage. Our weekly meetups allowed us to build upon each other’s thoughts and emotions, creating a deep understanding between us. Our senses of humor were quite alike, and our conversation had a natural rhythm and flow. The experience was enjoyable and fulfilling. I felt truly understood and seen, with my twin flame attentively supporting my every word. Even in the face of disagreement from others, he stood by my side, offering protection and unwavering support.
Stage 5: The Trigger
Twin flames serve as mirrors, reflecting both our positive and negative aspects. During this stage, they trigger each other, bringing to light insecurities and fears that require healing.
This stage can cause a lot of turmoil within the relationship as both individuals may struggle with their own issues. The ego becomes more prominent and feels threatened by the profound unconditional love shared by twin flames.
However, this triggering is necessary for both twin flames to grow and evolve. It allows individuals to confront their shadow aspects, release limiting beliefs, and heal past wounds. This transformative stage promotes personal growth, self-awareness, and the resolution of deep-seated fears and insecurities.
It is also important for twin flames to understand that these triggers are not meant to hurt or harm each other. Instead, it is a reflection of what needs to be healed within themselves.
Read this article if you are struggling with twin flame triggers.
My Personal Experience:
This stage presented the most significant challenge for me as it unearthed many of my deep-seated fears and insecurities. I found myself becoming excessively attached to my twin flame, experiencing feelings of jealousy when he grew closer to others. I also felt hurt and disappointed when he concealed his emotions from me. Following my intuition, I made the decision to leave the group for a while, which in turn triggered his own issues with abandonment.
Unlike the bonding stage, we encountered occasional disagreements stemming from differing opinions. Our egos refused to let go of control, and we found ourselves in a constant battle to prove our point.
Stage 6: The Runner and Chaser
This stage is often considered the most challenging and emotionally draining of all twin flame stages. It occurs when one twin flame becomes overwhelmed by the intensity of the connection and decides to run away from it.
The runner may need time to process their thoughts and emotions, leading to a temporary separation between the two. The chaser, on the other hand, may feel rejected and abandoned, desperately seeking to reunite with their twin flame. Usually, the twin flame that runs is the divine masculine and the twin flame that chases is the divine feminine.
This stage is crucial for both twin flames to learn important lessons such as detachment, self-love, and surrender. It allows the runner to confront their fears and insecurities while the chaser learns to let go of control and trust in the divine timing of their reunion.
However, this stage is not exclusive to twin flame relationships. Any two individuals with insecure attachment styles who enter into a relationship will encounter this push-pull dynamic. It is important to address and understand these dynamics to foster a healthy and fulfilling connection.
Read this article if you are struggling with the runner and chaser stage.
My Personal Experience:
Personally, I did not experience this stage with my twin flame. When I left the group that my twin flame established, I simply followed my intuition. I was not running away from him and he knew that. I still stayed in contact with him afterward.
When my twin flame never responded to my text messages or accepted my invitation to meet up, I did not chase after him. Having gone through three one-sided relationships before, I had a deeper understanding of how the dynamics played out. As a result, I felt more secure and chose not to react to his behaviors.
Stage 7: The Separation
After a period of intense running and chasing, twin flames eventually come to a point of separation. This separation is often triggered by a significant event or realization that leads them to completely detach from their deep connection.
In the separation stage, both twin flames may go through a period of inner healing and growth. This is where they focus on themselves and their individual journeys, rather than solely on the connection with their twin flame.
This stage can be challenging as both individuals may feel a sense of loss or emptiness without their twin flame by their side and sometimes they can experience the Dark Night of the Soul. However, this stage serves a higher purpose – to allow both twin flames to focus on their individual growth and healing.
This separation is not a permanent end to the twin flame connection, but rather a necessary phase for both twins to work on themselves before they can come back together in a healthier and more balanced way.
During this stage, twin flames may also have a reunion with their soul family or spiritual community. This can help both individuals gain insight and support as they navigate through this period of separation.
Read this article if you are struggling with the separation stage.
My Personal Experience:
Currently, I am going through a separation stage with my twin flame. It has been over a year since we last saw each other and we have limited contact, as we now reside in different countries. While being apart is not always easy, our deep spiritual connection remains strong.
To navigate this separation, I prioritize my inner growth and purpose. I have also connected with like-minded individuals and communities to discuss spirituality. Meanwhile, my twin flame has been pursuing their own interests and has even entered into a new relationship.
Stage 8: The Surrender
The surrender stage is when both twin flames have fully surrendered to the Universe and trust in divine timing. This stage requires inner strength, patience, and faith in the connection. It is a time when both twins have let go of expectations and control and allow fate to guide them.
During this stage, twin flames may feel a sense of peace and ease, as they no longer try to force their reunion or manipulate the situation. Instead, they learn to trust that the Universe will bring them back together when the time is right.
In this stage, both twin flames will go through a deeper spiritual awakening. Their ego relaxes and they no longer feel the need to prove themselves or compete with each other. There is a sense of unconditional love and acceptance for one another, as they see each other’s flaws and imperfections.
This stage can be challenging as it requires vulnerability and trust, but it is also incredibly rewarding as it allows for a deeper connection between twin flames.
My Personal Experience:
I have experienced a range of emotions in my twin flame journey. At times, I send positive wishes for his new path, while other times, I yearn for his presence.
Although I know deep down that our reunion will happen when the timing is right, I still encounter moments of missing him, blaming him, or feeling hurt and empty. Like others on the twin flame journey, I am navigating this stage, which can be challenging at times.
Stage 9: The Union
The reunion stage is when both twin flames come back together, usually after a period of separation. This can be a joyous and transformative experience, as both individuals have grown and evolved during their time apart.
It is important to note that the reunion may not necessarily result in a romantic relationship, as twin flames can have different paths and purposes in life. However, the bond between twin flames is always unbreakable, and they will continue to support and learn from each other no matter what.
Each individual possesses both masculine and feminine energy, regardless of whether they identify as divine masculine or divine feminine. Achieving this state requires twin flames to comprehend and embrace both aspects of their energy. Once this understanding is reached, twin flames can come together and cultivate a harmonious relationship.
My Personal Experience:
I have not reached union with my twin flame yet!
Final Thoughts
The twin flame journey is a unique and transformative experience that can bring both joy and inner growth. It is important to remember that every individual’s journey is different, and there is no “right” or “wrong” way to experience the stages. The key is to trust the process and have faith that everything will unfold in divine timing.
Read this article to learn how you can surrender in your spiritual journey.
